Mathew Hussey sits down with Jay Shetty to talk about dealing with relationships. The way most of us struggle with finding the right person, when we expect too much from our partner, when we refuse to acknowledge that change is voluntary, and when the amount of energy we are willing to give to someone who isn’t at par with what we’re willing to give are the truths that are harder to accept. Mathew Hussey is an British life coach, a YouTube personality, and the author of the New York Times bestseller Get The Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve. His podcast, Love Life with Matthew Hussey, offers practical tips you can use right away to improve all of your relationships – romantic, family, friends, career, and the relationship you have with yourself. What We Discuss with Matthew: 00:00 Intro 03:09 What’s your favorite story of love? 06:22 The importance of reevaluating what is actually important in a partner 12:44 It’s uncomfortable but maybe it’s teaching you something 21:21 When all the special moves don’t work and your genuine self comes out 23:56 The problem is people are falling in love too fast 25:47 How can you be nervous when you’re valuing the right things? 28:06 You obsess over what they could have been 32:59 Don’t be upset when you lose a poet, the poetry is the relationship 35:49 A moment where you genuinely are brave enough to let someone in and be seen 39:03 When you come out of an argument bleeding every time 44:31 People aren’t comfortable in being an area they can be criticized 47:32 The culture you create will have an impact in the people around you 50:53 Give an amount of energy you are willing to lose 55:34 Experiencing the endless ocean of disappointment 01:00:00 There is someone that uniquely vibes with your personality 01:03:35 You can’t change a person when they don’t want to 01:09:43 You’ve never been heartbroken, have you? 01:13:35 Staying in unhappy for a long time makes it difficult to entertain the the idea of leaving 01:18:40 The 30-Day Confidence Challenge 01:22:25 Win a limited edition, signed sampler box full of Jay & Radhi's favorite teas. Enter today! https://bit.ly/3jladpu Join the Sama Tea Founder's Club & enjoy exclusive perks and our private communi-TEA! https://bit.ly/37pPT0K Text me: 310-997-4177 -- Subscribe and be a part of the movement to make wisdom go viral: http://bit.ly/2n6hiQP-​​​​ -- Join the conversation by commenting below. -- Enroll in Genius Coaching to improve your life, deepen your relationships and find happiness every day: https://pages.jayshetty.me/genius/​​​​ -- Check Out My New Book, Think Like a Monk: https://thinklikeamonkbook.com/​​​​ -- Jay Shetty is a storyteller, podcaster, and former monk who wants to make wisdom go viral. He loves taking his own life experiences, lessons from his time as a monk, and truths he has learned to make others’ lives better. -- Follow me on Social Media: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shettyjay... Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayShettyIW/... Twitter: https://twitter.com/jayshettyiw​​​​ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayshetty​​​​ Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/jayshetty... Sign up for my Viral Wisdom Newsletter: https://jayshetty.me/email