#selfimprovement #selfdevelopment #wisdom "Tolerance does not mean a lack of standards or failure to impose consequences for failing to adhere to standards" Our present situations are typically imperfect. We can imagine how those imperfect situations could have better had events unfolded differently, and thus we are vulnerable to discontent. Perfect affection is found, in some way, in a tolerance for imperfections. It means living outside of the perfect world of Disney stories. That world, of unconditional devotion, idealization, and blind responsibilities, doesn’t exist. The affection we are talking about doesn’t just go half the way there. It isn’t dependent, aggressive, passive, or victimizing. It is definitely a big challenge. It is hard to foster love that doesn’t idealize. It is difficult to have realistic expectations. It is important to highlight that when we talk about imperfections, there will be chances for mistreatment, aggression, or other type of destructive behavior. This is just the reality of the world. Contentment depends on our envisioning how our present circumstances could have been worse and on judging that those circumstances are good enough with respect to a particular expectation frame. However, despite having an underlying acknowledgement of that, it is extremely difficult when our mental narrative have always been indirectly/subconsciously seduced by the high expectations of the massively popular & captivating the success porn industry of social media. How we see things unfold & operate in first person, will determine the narrative we go by through those perception. And let's be honest, things are not always as they seem to be on the surface, that is why we can be easily swayed that things are what & how they seem to be. "Out of sight, out of mind. In plain sight, kept in mind."