Today, I am talking to Mel Robbins. Mel is one of the leading voices in personal development and transformation and a New York Times Bestselling author. Her work includes "The High 5 Habit," "The 5 Second Rule," four #1 bestselling audiobooks, the #1 podcast on Audible, as well as signature online courses that have changed the lives of more than half a million students worldwide. Her groundbreaking work on behavior change has been translated into 41 languages and is used by healthcare professionals, veterans’ organizations, and the world’s leading brands to inspire people to be more confident, effective, and fulfilled. This time, Mel generously shares her thoughts on why people are unhappy and steps they can take to find genuine and lasting happiness, how to deal with our inner voice that's focus on negativity, why dreams are called directional signals, and the truth behind the struggles most of us go through as adults. What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Intro 00:04:41 Why am I holding on to the things that are making me unhappy? 00:13:58 The constant drumbeat of negativity 00:21:56 Engaging in your own campaign of misery 00:36:50 Difference between dream and delusion 00:50:04 Parental mismatch 00:57:48 Girls struggle with crippling perfectionism 01:02:21 Confidence is the willingness to try 01:09:53 Why it’s easier to question how somebody’s changing 01:16:19 How to find happiness again 01:21:45 Verbal acknowledgement of the little achievements